Tuesday, October 6, 2015


Today is the kind of day I would cat agonize as "autumn splendor". It was a stunning day. The sky was a gorgeous shade of blue, there were some pretty white clouds to accent the blue, and the sun was warm. I was in short sleeves most of the day, but as soon as the sun disappeared the jacket came out.

These are perfect days of weather, and amazing days in life. The best things about living on the East End are here right now: weather, activities, family, community-they all come together for me in October. I love the things around me and I love the anticipation of things to come.

October is my month. If on,y it could last just a little bit longer....

Monday, October 5, 2015


Monday's are busy days here at our house. The three youngest grandchildren get dropped off about 7:20 and I have them until a little after 4. They are busy days with dozens of trips to the potty (3-year-old-twins), and diaper changes (the 20-month-old), building with blocks, reading books, eating, naps, and all that goes with taking care of little ones.

By the time 6:00 rolls around I find myself thinking about how early I can go to bed without being awake at 5am Tuesday morning.

Today is my husband's 64th birthday and all day, as I ran around after the kids, the words to the old Beatles song kept running through my head (will you still need me, will you still feed me, etc). All I could think about was how I could remember singing that song with my friends when it came out all those many years ago, and thinking about myself as a feeble, elderly women of 64 years.

Somehow I never imagined me running around after three toddlers, potty training them, comforting them, tucking them in to bed, making them toast and jam, and picking them up when they fall.

Sixty-four must be different than it used to be. Or we were just pretty clueless. Or maybe a little of both...

Sunday, October 4, 2015

Pink Party

So, last night was our fund raising party for women's cancers. This was our forth year for this event and I want to share a few impressions.

First I have to say that everybody looks good in the color pink. I know some people think they don't have the right complexions for it, but honestly, everyone looked fabulous in their pink clothes, men and women alike. It was a sea of pink and a beautiful sight.

Second, people are very generous. I am always impressed with the willingness of folks to buy raffle tickets and bid on auction items. When they know where the money is going, and it's a local charity, they are more than willing to open their wallets.

People love to see each other. And they truly like each other. Seeing friends greet friends, and strangers looking delighted to meet new people, gives me hope for the world.

And most importantly, the women who work to put this party on are amazing. This is a small group of friends, not all of whom knew each other to start with, who decided to join forces to create an event with the sole purpose of raising money for local charities. We have very few meetings because we are all busy people with complicated lives. But we go out and network within our circle of influence and get donations from a very generous community, resulting in a raffle and a silent auction that is second to none. I am privileged to know every one of them.

It was a great night. And we're already thinking about next year....

Saturday, October 3, 2015

Real men

Tonight is the forth annual cocktail party to raise funds for local cancer charities. A group of friends got together in 2011 and decided we needed to do something to help in the fight and to care for women dealing with cancer, often while trying to raise children and keep their jobs and clean their houses....

The first year we did this in honor of a friend who had died the previous year. Since then two more friends have died and their names are also on our flyers and they are in our hearts as we work toward this event. It's sobering to see their photos on the easel at the entrance.

This is a long day and the event is a lot of work. But tonight I will go to bed exhausted....and very happy. Happy to have raised money to help other women get mammograms and fund transportation for their treatments....and very very happy not to have my photo up on that easel yet. I'm a lucky woman and I hate cancer.

Friday, October 2, 2015


We are in the midst of a series of storms and it's been raining on and off for two days. By next week we should have had enough rain to nearly wipe out the deficit we've had all summer. We are getting lots of rain in a very short time. Hopefully my basement won't be flooded.

The rain has been coming down all day and at times it's been in sheets. I was home with kids all day so I was able to observe it all from the comfort of my living room, watching the puddles form and the flower pots fill up with water. At least it didn't keep me awake overnight the way it did the night before. It came down so heavily the sound was incredible and by 5am I simply climbed out of bed and got dressed for the day. We'll see what happens tonight.

If all this sounds depressing, it isn't we needed the rain, and I enjoy an occasional dark and stormy day. Plus, it seems as though we're going to be dodging a big one as the hurricane working its way in this direction is now predicted to head out to sea before reaching us, as opposed to earlier predictions that had it moving right over us. That's something to be very grateful for.

Well, a few more days of this kind of weather isn't all that hard to take. Because life is good. And I've lived long enough to see another fall.

Thursday, October 1, 2015


Today is the first of October and as far as I'm concerned there isn't a more beautiful month is East Hampton.

The landscapes are incredibly beautiful in their autumnal splendor. The ornamental grasses are tall and full of fluffy fronds. The greens everywhere are deeply hued and some have given way to reds and purples. Many bushes still have blossoms, like late blooming hydrangeas and crape myrtles. And the trees are still heavy with leaves.

It's a month of change though, and change is already here. Environmentally, physically, and emotionally. It's October. And I love October.

Wednesday, September 30, 2015


We are heading in today. Heading in to the city in the pouring rain.

I have to see we have been very lucky over the years on our occasional forays into Manhattan. I can't remember a time we ever had to deal with bad weather. But today....well today is a different story. It's pouring right now and according to the forecast, it will be raining on and off all day. To add to the fun, it's warm, which means it will be hot trying to get from place to place in my raincoat.

My big question in whether or not to bring an umbrella. We'll be waiting on the street for the Jitney when we head home tonight and that could be unpleasant. It's no fun to get soaking wet and then have to sit in an air conditioned bus for three hours.

I suppose we can forget finding taxis so I'm not sure how we're going to get from place to place.

Oh well, I suppose we were due. After all, the sun doesn't always shine, not even on the Big Apple. It will be an interesting day....