Sunday, April 19, 2015


Today we head east back to Bonac. We came down to southern Pennsylvania late Friday to watch our grandchildren performing in the show "Annie" and now we need to hustle back to East Hampton to get ready for the week. Tomorrow is a babysitting day for me and office day for my spouse. And thus begins an
other long week ahead for both of us. In fact the next month is going to be an incredibly busy one for us. Lots of good stuff, with "lots" being the operative word there.

I cannot resent the busy times because I'm grateful to have them. I never forget how close I came to not being here and I'm grateful for the chances I have to experience the world. But fatigue does set in and my age reveals itself to me more often now than it did a few short years ago. New aches and pains appear on a daily basis and I know my physical being is not what it used to be.

I treasured this short visit to my daughter's and love being with her family. I also love being in my own home, my own bed, surrounded by my own beloved things. Not to mention the people I love in East Hampton. There is a constant pull when one or more of your loved ones live away.

Always it's sad to say goodbye and always it's blessed to say hello. The nature of life.

Saturday, April 18, 2015


Today I'm feeling incredibly blessed to be here. It's been 6 1/2 years since my  cancer diagnosis and today I am able to see two of my grandchildren in theater productions. A third I will see in a dance recital next week.  These are the things that make life special and I don't take any of it for granted.

As I sat watching my 8-year-old granddaughter sing "Tomorrow" at the top of her lungs, I couldn't help but shed a few tears of joy, tempered by sorrow knowing that my dearest friend in the world will be missing these special moments in her grandchildren's lives. It's been one year since she lost her battle with the same disease and I'm not sure why I'm still here and she isn't, but I promise never to be blasé about it and to always say a prayer of thanks that I have been so blessed.

Every day is a gift. Every day is a gift. Every day.....a gift.....I will never forget that.

Friday, April 17, 2015

Clean up

Spring was so late coming this year that suddenly everyone feels the pressure to get things done. Our house needs work, the yard, the paint -so many things to do in a few short weekends before we'll be wanting to be outside. Just today the screens went up on the two front windows, following some very warm days. There is more to do.

The landscapers and other seasonal trades are suffering from the long winter. I was speaking to someone who services cesspools and they said their business is backed up because all winter every job that would normally take an hour took many more. There was snow to shovel and many frozen lids to pry off. The weather effected businesses we don't normally think of. So everyone is behind.

We are off this weekend and thus another opportunity is passed to get ahead. But then, there is always next week. And eventually it will all be done.

Thursday, April 16, 2015

Pot holders

Reading a friend's blog the other day brought back a memory I hadn't thought of in a very long time.

It was the late 1950s - I would have been in elementary school. I was walking home one day with a friend when they wanted to stop at the Republican Headquarters building on Newtown Lane and grab some freebies. We stopped and the people inside were happy to give us pot holders, pencils, and a handful of "I Like Ike" buttons. We were happy to take these gifts home with us and spread the propaganda around to whomever would take them. Of course we also visited the democratic headquarters, but those gifts were not as warmly received by my parents. I was more than happy to use the pencils though.

The memory reminded me of how times have changed in little East Hampton. Back then there were always empty spots along Main Street and Newtown Lane for the parties to rent space and maintain their headquarters for a few months. That would never happen today.

It's also been a long time since anyone offered me pot holders with candidates names emblazoned on the front. I still have a few from the 1960s in my drawer here, but I haven't seen them in awhile now. Today we get slick flyers in the mail and robo calls at dinner time.

I wish we could go back to the potholder days.

Wednesday, April 15, 2015


So a couple days ago we signed our tax forms. One we owe on and the other we get a refund on so although it's not a wash, it's not too burdensome. And paying taxes always makes me pause.

Everyone likes to complain about taxes. In this country we don't pay as much as others do, and we pay more than some. But although I sometimes question certain taxes, overall I am grateful for what my taxes pay. I'm grateful for roads that help me visit my daughter and her family because without those well-maintained road it would be a more difficult and rarer journey. All I have to do is travel to a third world country and that message is loud and clear.

I'm thankful for clean water, free schools for our children, safe and efficient utilities, snow removal, clean streets and sidewalks, a safe food supply, a strong military to protect us, and all the other things that my taxes provide. Are there things I don't like paying for? Absolutely. But that's the nature of a democratic society.

All things considered, I'll take it.

Tuesday, April 14, 2015


Mentioning wardrobe yesterday made me think about my upcoming trip overseas.

I have not traveled to Europe in over thirty years now and since we'll be gone for 10 days I'm trying to work out the appropriate pieces to pack. Everything will need to be worn more than once so white and khaki are out. I'm going to stick to black basics and try to add colorful accessories. It may not be "Springlike" but it will be practical. I have plenty of underwear and socks and they don't take up much room, but pants and sweaters certain,y do.

The other thing I'm wrestling with is electronics. Should I bother taking my cell? Or a computer? I should have access to one there so maybe I'll simply unplug for the week I'm gone. The last time I traveled like this there were no cells or computers. Life has become easier in some ways and more complicated in others.

I have a few weeks left for planning. It's going to be an interesting inner dialog....

Monday, April 13, 2015

April -finally

It's finally feeling-and looking-like April.

I'm told that everything is weeks behind in nature this year. My mini daffodils are finally fully in bloom so I guess that's true-usually I see them at the end of March. The weather is finally about right-I was able to leave my coat at home once the rain stopped this week.the days are warming up nicely and the nights are still comfortably cool and sleep is easy. These perfect weeks of warm days and cool nights don't last nearly long enough for me. I love them. This week is looking beautiful and we have some lovely days to look forward to.

Time to start evaluating my wardrobe. Woo lens need to be put away and linen needs to be hauled out for cleaning and pressing. Not today, but soon. Summer hits quickly here as Spring is slow to come and short to stay.

And this year could be worse than usual. But for now, I'm just enjoying things as they are.